A traditional African man will form 'Oga Boss' in the home, not minding the effect, his actions is having on the children. The concept of marriage, from the African's perspective, was built on a system that is 100% in favour of the man. He automatically becomes the 'Lion Of The Tribe In The House'. He makes the laws, implement the laws, and at the same time breaks them! On his arrival from work, the family will suddenly turn to a commotion center. With mother jittering because dinner is not yet ready and the children would have gone into hiding in order for them not to be a victim of what comes after.
It's quite unfortunate that the bond of a father - child relationship is not experienced by many children. Many grew up without a father figure while some had to endure the period of staying at home. Most great people in our world, today, were product of the motivation and encouragement of the Mother.
Dr Ben Carson, whose father walked out on his family (without looking back) when he was 8 years, wouldn't have been who he is today if not for the impact of his mother (Sonya Carson). “Even in the toughest times, she always encouraged her children’s dreams. She never allowed them to see themselves as victims. She never, ever gave up.” That was President Bush acknowledging her, (while she beamed with smile), during the bestowment of The Medal Of Freedom award on Carson. “As my mother would tell me,” Carson says, ‘Give your best, Ben Carson. Settle for nothing less than doing your best for yourself and others.’ Those were the voice that made him !
As a father, do not make intimidation a weapon of obedience at home.
You won't loose your respect if you play with your kids.
The way you treat your Wife will determine the way your children will value you.
Don't ever talk your children down, you're their first supposed Coach and Mentor.
Build their self esteem, don't motivate Inferiority Complex in them.
Let your home coming be welcome in Joy and not with Fear.
Let your male child pick up the moral values in you. That will help them become a better person in life.
Always Defend your Ward and seek the best for them.
Your wife is not there to compete with you But to support you. Respect and Appreciate her.
Be the Bishop of your home.
#SeeYouAtTheTop
© Sanya Olatunji
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